Communication Tips From Jamie
Saying Sorry: We all have done or said things that upset or hurt the ones we love and care about. That is part of being human, that part of us that reacts to the inner drive to defend, hurt, push away, surrender to anger or get even with the ones we love.
Boundaries are an interesting thing. I am often asked what a boundary is and how do you set them?
Well if we really look, boundaries are all around us:
Engagement of teenagers, well how can I describe this process?
Well it’s kind of like feeding a deer. You can stand still, look them in the eye and hope they come to you but if you make the slightest move in the wrong direction, BAM they run in the bush.
Engagement is an interesting thing. It can mean something as simple as how was your day or as much as you are everything to me. Engagement is a vital process between couples that maintains the importance of each other in their lives together.
How many times have you skipped through your day with the energy of happiness? You know what I mean, saying hello to strangers, doing something nice for someone, singing in your car.
When in Conflict:
As we all know, conflict is a part of life. It’s really everywhere – in our homes, at school or work, in social situations and interactions. Most people do not like conflict, in fact, many try to avoid it at all costs.
“Keep your face always toward the sunshine – and shadows will fall behind you.”
~ Walt Whitman
Kathy’s Recommended Reading List
Recommended Book List
- The Connected Child – Karyn Purvis, David Cross, Wendy Lyons Sunshine
- No Drama Discipline – Daniel Siegel and Tina Bryson
- Parenting with Presence – Susan Stiffelman
- Parenting from the Inside Out – Daniel Siegel and Mary Hartzell
Everyone Has a Danger Alarm:
Helping Kids Go from Stress to Calm
This story has been written as an introduction to help children and parents understand the Autonomic Nervous System Response (Fight, Flight, Freeze). It will help readers understand this automatic response, and that it is not created by the child.
Children will learn a five-step process in understanding and improving their skill in managing challenging reactions. They will begin by noticing the responses in their body and recognizing them as signals (danger alarms) that they can learn to tune down and turn off with practice and repetition.
- Jennifer Kolari – The CALM Technique (You Tube – 2hours)
- Hold me Tight – Sue Johnson
- Attached – Amir Levine and Rachel Heller
- An Emotionally Focused Workbook for Couples – Veronica Kalios- Lill and Jennifer Fitzgerald
“Life doesn’t get easier or more forgiving, we get stronger and more resilient.”
“your history does not have to be the definition of you, the driver of your present or outcome of your future.”
Emergency Contact Numbers
Vossos/Luoma& Associates is not an immediate crisis intervention practice. We are not available at all hours and we know that crisis has no timelines. Below is a list of contact numbers for emergencies:
Emergency Contact Numbers:
- Emergency – fire/police/ems – 911
- Ontario Poison Centre – 1-800-268-9017
- Kids Help Phone – 1-800-668-6888
- Victims of Domestic Violence Help Line – 705-476-2429 (Nipissing Transition House)
- Women’s Sexual Assault Help Line – 1-800-461-2929
- Amelia Rising Sexual Violence Support Center – 705-840-2403 or 705-476-3355
- Temagami First Nation Healing and Wellness Centre crisis line (24 hour) 705-273-8600 (shelter for women in crisis)
- Victims Quick Assistance Program – 705-472-2649
- Crime Stoppers – 1-800-222-8477
- Ontario Problem Gambling Helpline – 1-888-230-3505
- Telehealth – 1-866-797-0000
- Children’s Aid Society – 705-472-0910
- North Bay Regional Hospital Crisis Line – 705-495-8198
- Crisis Center – 705-474-1031